Help meet not Hurt meet

Proverb 31:11-12 "The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."

I've heard time and time again that the best way to tear down your husband is to talk badly about him in front of other people. It breaks that trust between you and your spouse. I admit, sometimes I let complaints about my husband slip to my friends or family. Not only does it make me avoid talking through my issues with my husband, it gives them a bad picture of him. He really is a great man and a great husband for me. If I have issues with my husband, I need to talk them out with him, not with the first random friend/family member I talk to. Honesty builds trust. Be honest with each other. Why is it so hard? Communication is the key component to a healthy relationship. It is very hard to get started, but the more I talk with my husband about things, the easier it gets to communicate about ANYTHING and EVERYTHING with him. It's much better than holding in evil thoughts and spreading those evil thoughts to other people. I'm his wife to be his helpmeet as it states in Genesis 2:18 "And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." HELP....not hurt or hinder. Build him up instead. Tell those family members and friends something nice your husband did for you that day, when you feel like venting...save the vent talk for when you get the next chance to speak to your husband. It will help you not to spread evil thoughts about your husband and saying something nice about them helps you to remember, he really loves you, even though he makes mistakes. What human doesn't make mistakes....everyone does...Then when you're able to get alone time with your husband (please dont do this in front of others or your children), tell him KINDLY what's bothering you. Don't do it in an angry and ugly way. Proverb 21:19 states, "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman." Think together of something that could be done to avoid such things next time. Then end with telling them something you love about them. Treat your man well. He is a gift from God and should be respected and loved.